My eldest
Eshal, got all quite and sulking type after the birth of my twins, at first I
didn’t give much thought to it, the elder children go thru changes and mood
swings after new addition in the family, so I assumed that the phase would
eventually pass. I made sure she was included in helping around with the babies
and tried to give her time to adjust, I tried but I just didn’t have time to
brush my teeth mush less do anything else.
But then I
started noticing that she was always on the verge of tears no matter how much I
agreed to whatever she wanted, one stern look or word from me on any misbehavior
and she would start crying as if her worlds turned upside down.
In a way it
had, but I thought I was doing everything to make things work but obviously it wasn’t
working, so I decided to get help.
I thought about
where to go and I realized that the best place to get her behavioral input was
her school plus I could get pointers on how to effectively counter her
behavior: and hence the trip to the school.
After an
hour long discussion with her principle, we came to the same conclusion that
she did feel unsecure with the arrival of the twins so her principle suggested
that I try out some stuff with her that involved just me and her and the one
that she enjoyed.
I took out
some time and after she was done with her homework we baked cakes, my eldest
simply loves baking, so it was fun we also started making cards and stuff, I
could keep her interested for about 15 to 20mins but it did prove to be a good
source of mother and daughter bonding, it also brought out our creativity and I
got to know that my daughter is pretty inventive.
Now we look
forward to weekends because on Fridays we bake cakes and cookies for daddy, and
on regular days we make cards for birthdays or simple thank you cards for the
family.
Next I will
be posting some tips on getting started with Card making.
